"Look at them! They're still together?"

I'm back and I'm going to talk about R-E-L-A-T-I-O-N-S-H-I-P today...

People tend to ask, "They're still together?" when a couple has been in a relationship for 3 months or more. It's like something amazing happened when it comes for couple who is still together in 3 months. 3 months are such a very short period, guys! I've been asked by some of my friends:

1. You guys are still together? How come?
2. Are you guys never be in fight?
3. How could you guys last this long?

And I will just answered, "This is just a beginning. 3 months are too short for us to know each other! And alright, we've been in fight, dramatic and tragic story. But we survived!"
Teens these days are difficult to survive those dramas in their relationship. They tend to give up, stop fighting for the one they love, and move on. Forgetting that they used to love each other and don't want to let each other go. So I'm here for giving you some advice when you both are fighting (hope it'll work for you guys):

• Communication. When you find yourself uncomfortable in some point of your relationship, go talk to them. Tell them what you feel. I found out that it's difficult for some couples, but if you want to survive the dramas, you have to THROW OUT what inside you!
• Forget the past. You cannot bring up the past in the fight. I mean if they did something and you've forgiven them, it just seems not right to spoil those mistakes out from your mouth again. It will hurt them. 
• Say sorry and mean it. Don't say "I'm sorry" easily and do the same thing tomorrow morning. Say it when you really feel you've hurt them and want to change.
• Don't yell. Don't hit. If you're the guy and you hit your girl, kiss my ass. Girl, you don't deserve a man like him. Just leave him. And girls, please don't yell. Your boyfriend isn't deaf.
• When it comes to the girls who cry when both of you're fighting, the guys only need to stay there and keep silent until the girls stop crying. After that, you can talk to her about your problem.

I only get a few advice for you. Sorry >.< Actually me and Andrian seldom be in a fight, but when we fight, it will be him who got angry, and me who will cry like baby LOL~ But we don't need a long time to get together. It only lasts 3 hours, if I'm not wrong. Relationship without fights is just sooooo boring, dear. I mean, if we fight, we'll get to know the sides of them. The sides that slowly will be uncovered in your relationship...

Long Distance Relationship [LDR]

Most of couples avoid talking about this thing because they think they'll spend their time together forever till the end of time (?)

Well the reason why I bring up the topic here is because my boyfriend and I, maybe, will be separated by time and land when we graduate. He wants to study abroad to Singapore and because my dad told me to stay here in Indonesia, the chance for us to separate is 90% (well the 10% will happen if he decides to study here). At the start, it really bothers me that I get depressed with it. Will I survive without him? But I think I shouldn't take it too serious because no one knows exactly what will happen next day, right?

Long distance relationship mostly ends up with unhappy ending because of trust issues and no communication between the couples. We will not know what happen there if our boyfriend doesn't contact us and say hi or stuffs and we'll begin to lose that 'trust' on him. When actually he's too busy with his college, we just think that he has another girl to impress. And then we will say those words, "I think we should talk seriously... I can't take it anymore. I think we should end this..." Eww. I r o n i c.

Well it won't end like that if you both keep in touch every time. You should remember this, "Don't contact her/him if you have time, but take some minutes of your time to contact her/him" She/he is not a choice but she/he is a priority. She/he has your heart and she/he needs you to tell her/him about your day. 

Here are some tips for you to get that happy-ending-story of your LDR:

1. You should talk to each other everyday. Get skype, YM, Facetime, stuffs like that. Talk to him/her. Tell him/her about your day in college, etc.
2. TRUST. You really need trust to keep your relationship go on. You won't sit like fool thinking what is he/she doing right there and who he/she is out with. 
3. Go for a special date on special occasions (ex: Christmas, New Year, Valentine, his/her birthday) At least you both meet once or twice a year.
4. You both should have plan. You won't have that LDR forever, will you? You both will meet at the end of the road and if it happens, you'll know what to do. If you know you can't live together, just END IT. It'll just make you two suffer. Or one of you should move to another's country. It is just about the end date of both of you.

Love is beautiful, my cuppycakes. But if you can't control yourself, it won't appear as beautiful as it is. You should understand it and know what you should do next to stay in that zone called LOVE| For you guys who are going to have LDR or in LDR, I wish all the best for you. Remember, just keep in touch and TRUST EACH OTHER.